!!!!!!!!!!BEWARE!!!!!!!!!!
This is my ex-husband, John Davis, and the (biological) father of my two oldest daughters, Taryn (12.5 years) and Jaclyn (11 years). They haven't seen him since the end of July 1997, besides in passing. John is the biological father of six children from two marriages and one long term relationship (I guess not too long because they are no longer together!) He owe's child support tyo all three of us. To his first wife, mother of his 2 oldest (ages 15 & 14 yrs), he owes between $15,000 and $16,000. To me he owes a little over $14,000. To his ex-girlfriend , and mother of his two youngest (ages 3 & 2 yrs) he owes approxamitly $4,000. The only children he really spends any time with are the 2 youngest and they live only 3 blocks straight down from my home. When he does visit them he drives right by my house and doesn't stop or , so much as look at the girls! Both Taryn and Jaclyn want to share the same last name as the rest of us and Jaclyn, actually, wants Zaun to adopt her. John won't let the adoption happen though. He told me that he would pay child support once every 6 months and at least attempt to see them once every 6 months to prevent an adoption from happening. John and I we're divorced in Nov. 1991, due to the fact that he can't keep his pants zipped ( you can ask any one of his ex's). He actually started out really good. He has open visitation with the girls, which means that he has to give me at least a 24 hour notice before he comes to get the girls and he can do this how ever much he wants to. The only thing I've asked is that he takes the girls and not visit with them in my home because he tends to try and spend his time talking to me and not his daughters! As I said he started out great, then he started with his little, "I'll pick you up next weekend" statements and then he's never show up. These episodes began to happen more and more frequently. It's now been a little over a year since he's seen either of them. John can be a good father, when HE wants to. Unfortunatly, it seems that as the children get older he wants less and less to do with them. Zaun has been the only father figure the girls have had in the last 4 years and he's done a great job with them. They both call him Dad and refer to John as "John". The reason I allow this is because I have the belief that they have the right to choose under these conditions. Concidering that in the two years before he stopped seeing them altogether, he only seen them twice a year. John lives in the same city as us and under 5 miles away! He hasn't earned the right to be called Dad. I do, however, expect them to respect the fact that he IS their biological father so they are NOT allowed to say they hate him. They can dislike him all they want , but, they have to give him that respect.
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UPDATE:
On November 17, I took John back to court. Due to a back injury he sustained a little over a year ago, he is unable to work. He has offered to find me a car in exchanged for some (maximum $2,000.00) of his child support. He still hasn't been around to see his daughters and still wont give them up so that my husband can adopt them. It's been almost a year and a half since he's visited his dauthers. Jaclyn still want the adoption and Taryn doesnt. Taryn says, "I don't need a piece of paper to tell me who my father is, he's sitting in the living room now. If John wants to make babies then he is going to, at least, pay for us until we turn 18 yrs old. When I turn 18-1/2 years old then I want Dad to adopt me. John WILL pay me until I turn 18!" Sad isn't it?